A large percentage of my practice is couples work. My practice has been greatly influenced but not limited by Dr. Terrence (Terry) Real, Dr. Harville Hendrix, Drs John and Julie Gottman, Dr. John Welwood, Dr. Sue Johnson and Dr Gary Chapman. I am as well strongly influenced by Erich Fromm, Carl Jung, Thomas Moore and many therapists who integrate Eastern and Western theory or psychotherapy and spirituality.
Sometimes both partners are willing participants in couples therapy, sometimes not. Often the biggest reason for reluctance is fear of being blamed for the failure of the relationship. Others fear the “stigma” of needing therapy and would rather try and work things out for themselves.
Because our anxiety can be lessened by having some idea of what to expect, very general understanding of couple’s work is explained below. Please bare in mind, however, that every couple is different and that your couples therapy will be especially tailored to you and the unique concerns you bring.